Ok, so I'm totally new to this whole blog thing, but through some inspiration, I have decided to start one.
I have been ranting to my husband for weeks about something I don't understand about pregnancy, and I think he is a little sick of it, so I have decided just to put it out there. So here we go.
I found out that I was pregnant in February, and we are expecting our sweet little girl any day now! When I first found out that I was pregnant, I was so excited to tell everyone. I wanted to share my joy with everyone else. But, as I started telling people, I got a very different reaction than I thought I would. Of course people would be excited, and tell me congrats, and tell me how happy they were for me, and then the negative comments would start. They would switch from, its such a blessing, to "Well, enjoy your time now, because nothing will ever be the same again." Then as I got further into my pregnancy, people stopped saying congrats, and started saying, "Make sure you are sleeping, because it will never happen again." Other comments have been, " Your marriage will never be the same," "I hope your ready to never have any privacy again," and my personal favorite, " Your body goes to hell after having kids."
So, I have a question? Do people think that we just went into this pregnancy blind? Do they think that we didn't think about the fact that our lives were now going to revolve around this beautiful little blessing? I understand that everything changes, and I took that into good consideration before we started trying to get pregnant. I also understand that everything will change, but what gives people the right to sit there and tell you that your whole life goes down the toilet once you have a baby? Maybe I just have too high of expectations about mommy-hood, but when did people become so cynical about something that is supposed to be the biggest blessing of your life? I consider it a miracle that I was even able to get pregnant, and that God thinks that I am suitable to have children. I'm sure people are telling me these things thinking that they are doing me a favor by preparing me, but let me tell you that as a first time parent, who is already scared out of my mind, they are not doing me any favors.
Anyway, I was reading a blog the other day by a very sweet girl, and she talked about how much she loved being a mommy, and how her marriage has changed, but it is stronger, and I can't tell you how encouraging it is to hear some positive feedback every once in a while.
So, my final words on the subject: when someone tells you they are pregnant, please try to be supportive, and not so negative about it. Believe me, its the last thing a soon to be mommy wants to hear!
Thanks for listening, and I hope you don't take this as me not wanting advice from people because believe me, I need the advice, it would just be nice for a little balance.
Trina
