Ok, so I'm totally new to this whole blog thing, but through some inspiration, I have decided to start one.
I have been ranting to my husband for weeks about something I don't understand about pregnancy, and I think he is a little sick of it, so I have decided just to put it out there. So here we go.
I found out that I was pregnant in February, and we are expecting our sweet little girl any day now! When I first found out that I was pregnant, I was so excited to tell everyone. I wanted to share my joy with everyone else. But, as I started telling people, I got a very different reaction than I thought I would. Of course people would be excited, and tell me congrats, and tell me how happy they were for me, and then the negative comments would start. They would switch from, its such a blessing, to "Well, enjoy your time now, because nothing will ever be the same again." Then as I got further into my pregnancy, people stopped saying congrats, and started saying, "Make sure you are sleeping, because it will never happen again." Other comments have been, " Your marriage will never be the same," "I hope your ready to never have any privacy again," and my personal favorite, " Your body goes to hell after having kids."
So, I have a question? Do people think that we just went into this pregnancy blind? Do they think that we didn't think about the fact that our lives were now going to revolve around this beautiful little blessing? I understand that everything changes, and I took that into good consideration before we started trying to get pregnant. I also understand that everything will change, but what gives people the right to sit there and tell you that your whole life goes down the toilet once you have a baby? Maybe I just have too high of expectations about mommy-hood, but when did people become so cynical about something that is supposed to be the biggest blessing of your life? I consider it a miracle that I was even able to get pregnant, and that God thinks that I am suitable to have children. I'm sure people are telling me these things thinking that they are doing me a favor by preparing me, but let me tell you that as a first time parent, who is already scared out of my mind, they are not doing me any favors.
Anyway, I was reading a blog the other day by a very sweet girl, and she talked about how much she loved being a mommy, and how her marriage has changed, but it is stronger, and I can't tell you how encouraging it is to hear some positive feedback every once in a while.
So, my final words on the subject: when someone tells you they are pregnant, please try to be supportive, and not so negative about it. Believe me, its the last thing a soon to be mommy wants to hear!
Thanks for listening, and I hope you don't take this as me not wanting advice from people because believe me, I need the advice, it would just be nice for a little balance.
Trina
Boy, do I understand this. But as a first-time mommy for only a month, here is what I know. The sleep does get less...but the middle-of-the-night feedings also bring with it some precious one-on-one quiet time with your beautiful blessing... My body has already gone to hell but now the flab around my tummy doesn't reflect years of fast food or bad diets - it reflects a little girl who made it her home for 9.5 months and where God created my precious daughter. My marriage - well....I have only been married for 10 months and most of that has been while pregnant but Damon and I are tighter now than we ever have been.
ReplyDeleteSo chin up, my sweet friend!!!! What is awaiting you is a priceless and amazing gift...and with most amazing gifts, there will be a cost but I think that cost is far less than the blessing you are about to receive. Cannot wait to continue our learning journey of mommyhood together. I couldn't think of anyone I would rather dive into this experience alongside than you!!
We got comments similar to those from our friends when we announced we were engaged. Got the oh why would you want to do that's, now your not gonna get thoses. One guy friend of stevens actually said congradulations. All the others were not so much of what we were expecting. I think you and greg are going to be the best parents ever, you both have had great role models in the parenting aspect. Sure raising a baby is a hard job, one of the most hardest jobs of all, but it will all be worth it soon, especially when little mia graduates from college and you guys look and think wow look at what we created. There are going to be those days when of course she talks your ear off and those days when she thinks your the biggest geek ever and you'll still be the best momma and daddy ever to her and she will come to realize that. So as for those negative remarks, that nothing will ever be the same of course it won't, it will be better than you could have ever imagined from that first diaper change until she grows up and has her own family for you to spoil like your parents have done for her. I personally can't wait for pictures I'm betting she is a blonde hair blue eyed cutie that greg is gonna just fall for. Love ya guys, it will be okay, I know you got it covered. If not there's grandparents :)
ReplyDelete:) good on ya' sister.
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